Making Love Face-to-Face


How did Adam and Eve know how to make love, especially on their first attempt?

They had no parents or friends or sex manuals to explain the marital act to them. They were completely on their own.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)

Thus, how were Adam and Eve able to become one flesh?

It’s my belief that Adam, who named all of the animals, watched the animals mating with their own kind. After all, God said, “Be fruitful and multiply.”

Maybe he saw horses, cows, cats, dogs and whatever animals pair off and mate. Then, it also would have been normal for him to project what he saw happening with animals to what it might be like for humans.

But you must remember that all of this took place before the fall of man as recorded in Genesis Chapter 3, which means the animals were not corrupted by the sin of Adam. Each animal mated in the way God intended them to do it.

Yet, you can’t compare Adam and Eve to other animals because the two were created in the image of God and His likeness. Holy angels were not even accorded this honor, only humans.

The term “created in the image of God and in His likeness” is a ho-hum one for today’s believers, but it wasn’t that way for Adam and Eve. They walked and talked and fellowshipped with God on a daily basis. Their nakedness speaks not only of them being without clothes, but also without sin before the Father.

Except for a few species of monkeys and chimpanzees, humans are the only creatures that can make love in a face-to-face manner. Most of the other animals mate with the male standing behind the female and looking at the back of the female’s head in some sort of manner or another.

Is this important?

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her (Ephesians 5:25 NKJ)

The intimate relations Jesus has with His bride (or church) is through our worship and seeking Him. It is always with the bride looking into His face and Him looking into our faces.

Shouldn’t a married couple’s most intimate relations be carried out in the same manner as our Lord does with His bride? Face-to-face.


Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)

The reason for this article is that a friend, Glen Slabaugh, felt the Holy Spirit said to him about Hebrews 13:4 – “That’s not correct.” Glen knew the Holy Spirit was speaking about his interpretation and understanding of the verse.

Glen had always believed that Christian husbands and wives were free to engage in all sorts of sexual acts, including oral sex and anal sex. Why? Because marriage made these sexual acts okay and did not defile the participants. His various pastors over the years agreed with his thinking on this verse.

The Lord’s words caused him to study and meditate on Hebrews 13:4. Other translations shed a different light on the verse:

Let marriage be held in honor (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) in all things. And thus let the marriage bed be undefiled (kept undishonored); for God will judge and punish the unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous. (Hebrews 13:4 AMP)

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. (Hebrews 13:4 ESV)

These translations reveal that the marriage bed can be defiled by our sexual actions and lust. Glen decided that the Holy Spirit knew scripture better than he did. So, he repented and changed his beliefs.

What are the origins of oral sex and anal sex acts? Homosexuality.

These are the only ways that same sex partners can have sex with each other. It cannot be carried out in a face-to-face style like Jesus and His bride.

Should Christian couples borrow these acts from homosexuality, which God calls an abomination?

Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? (1 Corinthians 6:18-19 NKJ)

For this the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 NKJ)

But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints. (Ephesians 5:3 NKJ)

Like Glen, I believe many of us married believers have been deceived and have wrongly interpreted Hebrews 13:4. Our errors may have contributed to our problems in our marriages and may even have caused some of us to undergo divorces.

The good news is that Jesus still sits on His throne.  We can ask His forgiveness, repent of our sins and walk in His ways from this moment forward.

Why is the Lord putting an emphasis of something like this right now?

That He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. (Ephesians 5:27)


Filed under America, Christianity, Church, Marital Sex, Marriage, morality

2 responses to “Making Love Face-to-Face

  1. very good insight, I have never pondered these truths, thank you!

  2. Yvette,

    I had not pondered them until my friend Glen mentioned his insight. God bless you.

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