Swimming Upstream: “Grace Is Not Fair!”

Early in  our marriage, Honey and I faced some tough circumstances. Answers were needed…as in now.

I did what I normally do when there are problems: I crawled out of bed early in the morning and sought the Lord. An hour passed. Two hours passed. Three hours passed. And yet, I heard no answers from heaven.

A little before 8 a.m., Honey awakened and walked into the living room. She was wearing pajamas and yawning, stretching her arms in the air. After slumbering over to the coffee pot and pouring herself coffee, she came over to the sofa where I was praying.

“Oh sweetheart,” she said, “I had the best night’s sleep and the greatest dream. Do you want to hear it?”

I nodded. She told me her dream.

And of course, her dream was the answer we needed from heaven for our problems.

Now, is this the only example of my seeking the Lord for hours and Honey seemingly spending little time doing that, but yet, somehow, the Lord favors her with the answers? Oh no! Of course not! I have dozens of examples.

It seems unfair, right? And it is, until you factor in the Lord’s grace.

The measure of grace on my life for prayer and seeking the Lord is different than what Honey has.  Period.

For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think…(Romans 12:3)

Swimming Upstream appears at this blog site on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. It’s  a little of this and a little of that, all written  to encourage and exhort believers in their Christian journeys.


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13 responses to “Swimming Upstream: “Grace Is Not Fair!”

  1. Actually, I should read this post at least once a week. It would save my teeth. You know, from gritting my teeth when I want to say something to Honey again…and again.

  2. lsbmusings

    Too often I’m comparing my prayer life to others – longing for something they have that I seemingly don’t. So much better to just keep praying and factor in His grace. Great post.

  3. You go Honey,,very good read Larry. We all need answers at this time,so I know where your coming from. Cheryl

  4. Good post Larry. With me, I still can get lost in expecting things to look or be a certain way. A man of prayer should be such and such. Thank you for your insightful reminder.

  5. Isbmusings,

    The day after I was saved, I was up praying…or trying to pray. It seemed like a normal thing to do. A few months later, I was shocked to learn that not all Christians did this.

    But it was God’s grace working in my life.


    You are a hero to my wife with your “You go, Honey.”

    We, too, are in transition and wondering what’s happening next.


    Good comment. I, too, always thought people who prayed a lot should have fewer problems, right? But if you read about Father Nash, David Brainerd, Praying John Hyde, Basilea Schlink and other prayer warriors, they seemed to have more problems than the average believer. A lot more problems.

    To be honest, I have few problems when I’m praying. It’s when I’m done that I my problems confront me.

  6. lol Larry. I almost mentioned Praying Hyde in my post as what a man of prayer should look like, but wasn’t sure if people would know who that was.

    What I said in my first post was more about my expectations. In the past I would think like this: I expect a praying person to look/be like this, pray x amount, receive answers in a certain way etc.

    Or, I expect an encounter with God to be a certain way. I expect a word of prophecy to be this, a Christian to look like that, peace and joy to be or feel a certain way.

    And in my preconceived expectations, I think I often missed the reality of God because it didn’t fit in with what I thought or was taught it should look like.

    For example, today I shared an experience I had in a post where imho *I think* I experienced the gift of discerning of spirit(s). Which didn’t look like what I expected that gift to look like. So I’m finding I Still have preconceived notions. Thank God He doesn’t limit Himself to the box of our expectations.

  7. Scott,

    “…Thank God He doesn’t limit Himself to the box of our expectations…”

    Sadly, He is working on my box, too. I’m guilty of doing the exact same things.

  8. Don’t you mean: Gladly, He is working on your box. \o/ woohoo.

  9. Scott,

    Good point.

    Yippee! He’s working on my box, too.

  10. “Shiny happy people holding hands” – REM- We all want to appear like we got this one… but when it comes down to it, aren’t lucky we don’t… Whenever I try to save myself, I sink a little deeper, but I sure look cool trying!

    It is amazing to watch the Spirit move in response to prayer. The breath of God is a sweet, humble release… I’m with Honey though, the dreams have it!

    What better an answer from God when your ego is asleep!

  11. I’m not sure I can give you and Honey ALL the credit, but I think you inspired my last entry!

  12. Cindy,

    Aw shucks! You made me blush.

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