“Lord, did I do something wrong?” I said aloud after hanging up the phone.
Almost instantly, I felt the Holy Spirit say to my heart: “Don’t ever pray that way again for your son Scott and his girlfriend Liza. Pray for the two to get married and have a great marriage.”
This quick back and forth conversation came about one weekend in the 1990s because a few months earlier I had prayed for my son to break up with his girlfriend. My prayer was not because Liza wasn’t a great girl because she was all of that and more. But according to my thinking, she didn’t pray or study her Bible or seem sufficiently interested in the Lord to meet my nearsighted standards. So, I figured she had to go.
Did my prayer work?
It seemed to work for a while as the two quit dating almost immediately after my prayer. This continued for a few months until I spoke with Scott on that weekend.
“Just want you to know that Liza and I are dating again,” said Scott.
“Oh…” I replied.
We said our goodbyes and hung up.
When Scott told me about dating Liza again, fear enveloped me. The fear shredded my hardened heart so that I could ask, “Lord, did I do something wrong?”
Upon hearing the Lord’s voice, I repented and began praying for the two to be married, which happened three years later. Liza and Scott now have two sons and a godly marriage.
Does scripture back up my experience?
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations.” (Jeremiah 1:5)
“For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, “plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11)
Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times things not yet done, saying, “My counsel shall stand and I will accomplish all My purpose.” (Isaiah 46:10)
My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them. (Psalm 139:15-16)
The above verses reveal God has plans for our children before they are even born. We also know God revealed plans about children and grandchildren to various parents in the Bible:
Hagar about her son Ishmael. (Genesis 16:10-12)
Abraham about his son Isaac. (Genesis 17:19-21)
Rebekah about her twin sons −Esau and Jacob. (Genesis 25:23)
Jacob prophesied over his grandsons. (Genesis 48:15-20)
Jacob prophesied over his sons. (Genesis 49:2-27)
Manoah and his wife about their son Samson. (Judges 13:3-5)
King David about his son Solomon. (1 Chronicles 23:8-10)
All of Judah about Josiah. (1 Kings 13:2)
Zacharias about John the Baptist. (Luke 1:13-17)
Mary and Joseph about Jesus. (Luke 1:30-33; Matthew 1:20-21)
Maybe you’ve raised an eyebrow after reading so far. “Yes, God did this for Israel’s patriarchs, His kings, John the Baptist, and for our Lord Jesus,” you may be muttering to yourself, “but these were people especially chosen by Him to carry out His plans on earth. Why would He do this for me and my children?”
(Excerpt from Praying for the Frozen Chosen: Our Children by Larry Nevenhoven, © 2016, Amazon eBook)
(Continued in Part 3)